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I still can’t get those images out of my head. Women were marching on Washington clad in vagina suits and pink pussy hats. Just writing that sentence irks me. Am I really raising my daughters in this crude society of women?

The words of Ashley Judd’s speech at the Women’s March on January 21, 2017, still have me shaking my head in disbelief. She recited a poem from a nineteen-year-old expressing outrage about our current president. Ironically, the poem railed against Trump’s past vulgar remarks with equal poetic vulgarity. It ended like this, “Our p__sies are for our pleasure. They are birthing new generations of filthy, vulgar, nasty, proud, Christian, Muslim, Buddhist, Sikh, you name it for new generations of nasty women.”

Me: No, thank you!

Modern-day feminism has resorted to crassness instead of respectfulness. Women who call out injustices, inequalities, and a man’s vulgar remarks with equal vulgarity…I guess modern-day feminism has risen to the occasion.

Today’s women’s movement uses celebrity platforms of women who think they speak for all of us. Their political and social opinions are wrapped in hatred, anger, and a cry for justice that looks more like self-centered relativism. It’s not a society of women I want to raise my daughters in. I refuse to raise a generation of vulgar females because it is not who God created women to be.

I recently did a study on the book of Ruth amidst all of the recent news on women’s speeches and marches. Now juxtapose this recent news with Ruth’s story, and you might be able to find the humor in it with me. Today’s women are screaming about their inequalities, and then there’s Ruth. She loses her husband and her only means of income in a culture that does not treat women with equal footing as men.

Yes, yes, it was a different time and place in history, but you have to look at this woman and realize there is a reason her story is set aside as a complete book of the Bible. She is the exact opposite of the characteristics that define modern-day feminism. She was humble, selfless, giving, honest, hard-working, and defined love as serving others over her needs. You don’t find Ruth on a platform screaming about her “rights.” Instead, she’s picking up scraps of grain behind harvesters so that she and her mother-in-law would have food to eat.

If you have never read the book of Ruth, I won’t give the story away. You have to read it to understand that charity defined her life, and eventually, her selflessness redeemed her widow’s story. A redemption story that ultimately would become a divine legacy.

The story of Ruth is really about what it means to be a generation of women who follow Christ. It celebrates womanhood amidst the struggles of life and real injustice. There are no words of self-empowerment, filth, vulgarity, or pride. Ruth is the very definition of what I want to teach my daughters to be in this ‘nasty woman’s world.’

Women who use their talents and strengths to serve others.

Women who find worth and value in their relationship with Christ.

Women who see humility as a strength and not a weakness.

Women who value their sex with virtue and respect.

Women who celebrate life and the God-given miracle of carrying a child in her womb or in their adoptive arms.

 Women who celebrate their differences with men and find equality in those differences.

 Women who don’t strive for perfection but emulate grace through all the struggles and imperfections of life.

Raising my daughters with a biblical worldview over modern-day feminism is not popular. It’s turning away from all things progressive and marching against a tide of women who will look down on them and probably ridicule them. I don’t care! We will not be judged or known by how loud we scream and our “performance” in this secular world. Instead, like Ruth, if we follow the call of Christ in our lives, we will be known for our charity and humility.

I have this t-shirt that says, “Ruth. Mary. Sarah. Esther. #Squad Goals.” It’s a reminder of the women I want to emulate in my life—biblical representations of women who followed Christ in a culture that often rejected the things of God. I am nowhere near imitating the selfless characteristics of Ruth. She’s a squad goal, but she’s also my hopes and dreams for a future generation, especially the young women I raise.

I’ll keep wearing my biblical #squad goals t-shirt against the tide of pink p__sy hats. It might not be popular, but I’d much rather carry the title of Christ-follower than feminist.

 

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The mainstream media is exceptionally deceptive in providing the viewer a glimpse of the narrative they want you to see. It’s like looking into binoculars and focusing in on one area while completely missing the beautiful panoramic scene beyond your focus. The pro-life community is often fixed into a specific narrative by various media outlets. What they don’t want you to see is a community of people made up of different faiths, cultures, nationalities, and a common purpose in creating a culture that embraces life.

Last Friday was the 44th Annual March for Life. I was there walking among hundreds of thousands of people all centered on the common goal of marching against the injustice of abortion. The injustice of the unconstitutional decision of Roe v Wade in 1973, has resulted in the deaths of 58 million Americans. Focus in on that number because mainstream media never does. Instead, the media focuses on angry anti-abortion rhetoric that doesn’t represent the pro-life community as a whole.

The pro-life movement is anti-abortion. Abortion is murder and Roe v Wade made it legal to kill the most innocent among us. In a society that stands for civil rights and equality for all, our country has turned its back on this genocide for forty-four years. But who are these people who march every year? What does the pro-life community really look like?

Three years ago, I started to write about pro-life issues. I became familiar with pro-life organizations. I researched and followed life news. What I found was that even though I had considered myself pro-life, I did not understand the movement. I was focused in on mainstream media’s narrative and did not realize there was such a diverse community standing up for the life of the unborn. Not only diverse, but each group focusing on various ways to achieve the goal of creating a culture of life.

Every year, I am in awe of the different organizations who join the pro-life community. It’s a beautiful panoramic of people from all over the country whose goal- whether part-time or full-time- is to not only save the lives of unborn babies but meet the needs of women and men who contemplate abortion as a choice. I have never been a part of a movement so diverse with so many gifts, and talents focused on one common goal. There are faith-based groups, political parties (Republican and Democrat), educational and research institutions, secular groups, homes established to provide for pregnant mothers, media and entertainment outlets, adoption agencies, pregnancy care centers, healthcare providers, and the list goes on and on. It’s a holistic approach to a common goal, unlike anything I have ever witnessed.

The marchers that you might have watched (briefly) on your news programs, holding pro-life messages, was just a glimpse of the pro-life community. There is really no way to adequately convey how misinformed I was about those who dedicate themselves to stand for life. They are more than activists who journey once a year to march on Washington to demonstrate against our nation’s fateful decision of Roe v Wade. They are students, priests, politicians, post-abortive mothers and fathers, adoptees, adoptive parents, ex-abortion clinic workers, faith communities, atheists, feminists… The diversity is astounding, and many of them dedicate their lives full-time to save the life of the unborn. These are not once-a-year activists who hold creative pro-life signs. Whether full-time or part-time, they live out their objective to create a culture of life in their communities.

I come away from the March for Life Event every year and realize we are a pro-life generation. Despite how the media spins the narrative of the pro-life movement, it will not change reality. There is a growing culture of diverse people who stand against abortion with compassion, grace, and unity with a common purpose. As a pro-life woman, mom, and writer, I urge those of you who stand for the sanctity of the life of the unborn to adjust your focus. Research and support the many pro-life groups in our country. Volunteer and take a stand in your community using your gifts and talents to create a culture of life. Being pro-life does not necessarily mean you have to be an outspoken activist. But you do have to support the cause for life actively. If you claim to be pro-life, live it out and defend it.

The theme of this year’s March for Life was “the power of one.” It truly is amazing how the power of one multiplies every year and grows into a diverse community. A population of people who prove that every life has purpose both in and out of the womb. They unite every year despite the judicial ruling that they refuse as the definitive answer to abortion.